Imagine being in a room full of your students and fellow teachers at the school you’re teaching at in Thailand. You’re one of five foreigners in the entire school. It’s a well respected holiday today, a day honoring teachers, called Wai Khru. At this moment, you are stepping on stage in front of everyone and taking a seat along with 10 other teachers so the ceremonial dance and flower arrangement offerings can be presented to each of you. You sit down, and literally the entire room gasps in horror, and you don’t have a clue why!
This mortifying experience actually happened to me, and it was my fault. My fault for not knowing that you shouldn’t cross your legs, on stage, in front of tons of people. Oops! I had only been teaching in Thailand a few weeks, and I did read up on the cultural differences. I knew feet were unholy and whatnot, but I didn’t know the extent. I was in a skirt, and naturally, considering I’m from the USA, we cross our legs.
Luckily, the teacher next to me shoved my leg down and the ceremony went on. I found out about my faux pas after the ceremony and apologized profusely for about a week to every teacher I bumped into. Nobody actually minded, they said it was OK because I’m a foreigner, but embarrassing nonetheless!
As soon as you get your plans to Thailand sorted, make sure to read up on the cultural differences. Here are some of Thailand’s Do’s and Don’ts.
Head to Toe
This might be an unusual cultural difference for Westerners, but it’s possibly one of the most important. In Buddhism, the head is the holiest part of the body, while the feet are the unholiest. Therefore, you never touch a person’s head or mess with their hair, and you don’t point at anything with your feet. When you are visiting a temple and sat on the floor, your legs should be tucked under so your toes are pointed to the back of the room rather than at Buddha, in the front.
Does is make sense why crossing my legs was a big deal? I was essentially shoving my foot right in their face! By the way, the appropriate way to sit like a lady with a skirt on in Thailand is to turn your knees to the side and cross at your ankles.
Leave Buddha Alone
Yes, Buddha is super cool. This isn’t an invitation to take tons of selfies with you on his lap or making bunny ears behind his head, though. Actually- don’t touch any of the decor in or around a temple for that matter. This is very disrespectful and you could end up breaking something.
With that being said, there are a few other temples rule. You should be barefoot, shoes left outside the front door, and you should also be appropriately dressed. Your bottoms should be knee length and your shoulders covered.
Besides taking shoes off at a temple, you should take them off before entering a home, and sometimes stores and shops. Just take note of the stack of shoes outside, that’s your clue.
Get a Room
PDA, public displays of affection, are frowned upon and are rude. You might see some young Thai love birds holding hands, and that’s about it. Making out and groping each other in public is gross anywhere, and pretty offensive here.
Keep it Cool
Never, ever, ever, EVER, lose your temper here. You never want to disrespect them by yelling and throwing a temper tantrum.
A few reasons why this is a bad idea: You will get more help if you’re calm, you don’t want to piss off the wrong person, and losing face is a big deal here. You don’t want the Thai person to feel as if they lost any respect, this might be bad news for you. You must have “Jai yen” (“cool heart” – in other words, chill out).
Greetings and Wai
A wai is the greeting done to one another to show respect. You put your hands together with your finger tips in front of your nose and give a little nod forward. There are tons of rules for this depending on the person’s “level of respect.” Make sure the wai doesn’t go too low below your face, this can be rude. Wai back if someone wai’s you, unless it’s a service person or a child. When in doubt, just nod and smile. As a foreigner, it’s not expected that you know all the rules for this greeting, but I would encourage you to read more on it.
Now that you’re armed with some of Thailand’s do’s and don’ts, let’s learn a bit…
Learning a few words in Thai goes along way.
Sawadee ka/kap – Hello
Korp Khun ka/kap – Thank you
Sabai dee mai? – How are you?
Sabai dee ka/kap – I’m fine
Ka – polite ending for females to say
Kap – polite ending for males to say
That can start you off. I’m sure you will find a nice Thai along the way to teach you a few other random words.
Do you have a cultural faux pas to share? Let’s hear about it in the comments!